BY: JASNAM SACHATHEP
The Nanny Diaries: The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly!
We need our nannies more than they need us. The dependency is real. As if having a baby isn’t enough of a new chapter, finding the right nanny doesn’t make it any easier. Nannies are expected to take care of the most important people in our lives, so they better be good at it! This is true especially for new mums, as so many of us don’t know how to do countless things and have to learn from our nannies, too! Not to mention the cost of hiring a nanny; the more experience, the higher the pay. It is no small investment to make, alongside the already costly never-ending baby stuff.
Truth be told, we spend more time with our nannies than we do with our own husbands, so they must also be good company. It’s almost like entering a new relationship. In some cases, they even become your roommate for the first month or so due to late nights and odd hours. Waking up every few hours is mentally and physically taxing and since (most) husbands are too busy snoring, we turn to our nannies. Talk about too close for comfort – especially if you don’t like your nanny!
Although we hire nannies with the sole purpose of making our lives easier, it doesn’t always turn out that way. With all the members in our Indian households, nannies have a dozen personalities to adjust to. Nannies themselves come with their own fair share of drama. We have to manage their food, their pay, their holidays, and most importantly, their moods. And when they ask for time off…the panic sets in. Cancelled playdates, frantic calls to find substitute help, and misplaced diaper bags abound.
Like I said, the dependency is real. Nannies can be a blessing and a burden all at the same time. Let’s see what experiences some of the people in our community have to share.
33, mother of one
Having the right nanny for a newborn baby is like winning a lottery. I consider myself fortunate in this case because my nanny is lovable, respectful, and truly engages herself entirely in making sure my daughter is surrounded with a safe and happy environment. Knowing all this makes it easier for me to continue my career whilst raising my daughter.
30, mother of two
I have two sons just two years apart, and have very good experiences with both my sons’ nannies. The first one was very active and Rayvaan turned out to be a highly spirited child who loves to play and engage with the world around him. The second nanny is more quiet and introverted, and this seems to rub off on Kavish, who can sit and play with stuffed animals by himself, and he is a champion sleeper! Both nannies treated my sons with care and nutritious food, and took pride in offering them a safe and clean environment. I am very grateful for everything they taught me, too.
31, mother of one
One nanny I had always did the opposite of what had to be done. I had to repeatedly tell her to wear a mask when she had a cold, or wash her hands after she went to the bathroom. One time, I found her dozing off while looking after my child, which was ridiculous because she gets plenty of sleep. It felt like I was nannying her more than she did my child, and finally I had to let her go.
Ravleen Madan Singh
29, mother of one
My first nanny came and left within 10 days. She was highly qualified, had decades of experience, but had a serious issue with paranoia. She kept thinking everyone in the house hated her and that we all wanted her gone. The first 10 days of being home were overwhelming enough without having to deal with her insecurities. My mother-in-law spent hours reassuring her that we had no issues with her. The icing on the cake was when she overheated my hot compress–setting it on fire, resulting in fumes and the smell of pungent burnt herbs in our room for days. She cried and left soon after that.
37, mother of one
In the nearly two years since my son was born I’ve been through six nannies. I tolerated a lot of negligent actions from one of them, when one day I just had enough. She boiled the water for my son’s formula with a wooden lid that had fallen into the pot. The water turned yellow and although she saw that, she didn’t mention it to me or replace the water. She poured it into a cup with my son’s dinner and when I went to feed him I realized it was yellow. It was lucky I was home that night or she would have fed it to him. She had poured the same water into the thermos that I used at night as well. She left soon after.
TOP FIVE NANNY QUALITIES
- Baby knowledge
- Common Sense